Should You Have a Thai Girlfriend in Thailand?

Should You Have a Thai Girlfriend in Thailand

Not only is this a question that I’m asked weekly by visitors to this website, but this is a question that I tend to ask myself at least a few times a year.

The below is merely an opinion from one man, me. But this opinion is a collection of years of experiences from not only myself, but from many others who have lived in Thailand.

First, if you’ve never had a Thai girlfriend in Thailand, there is one thing you need to know. Having a GF here is not the same as having a GF back in America or Europe. Here girlfriends aren’t someone that you see a couple times a week then move-in with after a few months. In Thailand they are basically your wife. If they don’t move in, they will expect to see you nearly every waking moment and stay at your home every night. And this tends to happen within a couple days of you first sleeping with her.

Thai girls hate to be alone, are clingy, and very jealous if you go out without them.

If you enjoy your freedom and not having to explain your whereabouts to anyone = Don’t have a Thai girlfriend. Stick with “Giks” (aka fuck buddies).

Although freedom is one thing you may give up, there are many benefits that come with having a Thai girlfriend. It’s a fact that Thai women know how to take care of their man on levels that western women are far too lazy for. Such benefits are:

1- Live in maid. She will cook, clean, and do just about any household duty without ever being told to.

2- Unlimited sex, blowjobs, and massages. No longer do you have to wait till your birthday to get your yearly blowjob or negotiate for a massage. Thai girls know that this is expected and is part of being your girlfriend.

3- We all know condoms suck, but are necessary. When you verify that she is exclusively fucking you, get her tested, and you are good to go.

There are many benefits of having a Thai girlfriend and many downsides as well, one such downside is when you want to fuck another woman…

I’ll be honest, I have never met one man in Thailand who has not cheated on his Thai girlfriend or wife. This is just what happens when sex with beautiful women is so easy.

“For every attractive woman you see, there’s a guy somewhere tired of having sex with her!”

You can go “short time” a girl at a bar, GoGo club, or massage parlor. And this is what most men do. But there will come a time when you randomly meet a girl that you like. Then the lies start: “No I don’t have a girlfriend.” “I was just out with friends having a drink.” “You know I care about you and I only want you.” Etc…

This will work until that inevitable point in time where you fuck up and forget to delete your text messages because you were too drunk and tired.

You will then wake up with a girl who stands just over 5 feet tall beating the shit out of you and screaming like a mad woman.

Prepare for drama like you have never before experienced…

One of the hardest and most costly things in Thailand is breaking up with your girlfriend when you are caught cheating. Repairing computers, televisions, and furniture is not cheap. Then two days later she will apologize and beg to have you back.

(Note: If your girlfriend is an ex-whore and you are giving her a monthly allowance, be sure that you negotiate into the deal that you are able to “short time” other girls. This sounds crazy, but it works. I know quite a few friends with this set up.)

The question of whether you should have a Thai girlfriend is not an easy one to answer, there is no right answer.

You’ll probably sleep around for a bit. Find one that like better than the others and before you know it, she’s living with you. Then a couple weeks or months you’ll find someone better, break up, find a hotter one, and the never ending cycle will repeat itself.

The thing about Thailand is, there are so many BEAUTIFUL women around. Even though you are sleeping with the HOTTEST girl of your life, you’ll find another one better right around the corner.

One final piece of advice: Once you leave Thailand, go ahead and continue talking with your Thai girlfriend. But never send her money. She will come up with a whole bunch of excuses, but the fact is:

If you are not in Thailand, she will be fucking another man whether you send her money or not!

Don’t believe me? No problem, all you have to lose is your bank account 🙂

Posted on Gods of Thailand November 15, 2012 in , , ,


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  • John W. Hatley says:


  • rick says:

    How do i go about living in thiland? And how much will i need to live.

  • Buffalo boy says:

    There is no need to commit to relationships in Thailand, these are things men do in the west because it is demanded by girls in exchange for sex. In thailand you can sleep with as many girls you want with no commitment. If you want companionship and not just sex you can still get this from going “long time” with bar girls, just be honest with them, tell them you will be sleeping with other girls on the side and you wont have any problems. Remember that any commitment to a bargirl is bullshit, as soon as you leave thailand they will sleep with other men, as soon as you leave their side they will go back to their bar and sleep with other men so it would be ridiculous to commit to a bar girl.

  • Buffalo boy says:

    Most men get into these situations because they do not tell the girls upfront that they are a butterfly, If you see a bar girl for a couple days in a row they will become posessive, most men tell them what they want to hear and agree to be their boyfriend and then sneak around behind their back, there is no need to do this just be upfront and honest with the girls and tell them you are promiscuous, tell them this every day and you will not have these jealousy problems. Tell them you are on a holiday and not looking for a relationship.
    One thing that you must never do is take more than one girl from the same bar or from a bar that is in plain view of the other one, this will make the first girl lose face, thais are all about pride and face, they gossip alot, it is an insult to the first girl because it implies that she did not do a good job and did not please you.

    • Yeah, you are right on with your comment.

      Sounds corny, but just be honest. If you are fucking more than one girl and don’t want to be tied down, tell the girl that. (Let her know that you don’t want a girlfriend and that you like being single.)

      Just don’t rub it in her face by staying with her for a couple of days then taking a different girl from the same bar. (This will save you from some unnecessary drama.)

  • sublime says:

    I don’t mind the idea of having a Thai girlfriend but having just come out of a four year relationship, I’m won’t be looking for another girlfriend for a long while. Forever Alone!

    So, please write an article, not on avoiding GFs, but on how to find friends with benefits, or giks as you say! Also and article on what its like picking up farang women in Thailand would be an interesting read to… probably much like home but a little easier as everyone is out for a good time

    I hope to be back over there in about a years time however I passed a travel agent today with a sign for a one way ticket to BKK for under 17,400THB(equivilent), so my departure date may be much sooner than what I’ve been thinking so far…

  • Paul says:

    I like Jordan’s comments and was thinking about moving to Koh Samui. I wonder if I could just go to short time bars and never tell a Thai girl I live there. It seems like a hassle to move every 3 months because the Thai people want everything you got.
    I like the website btw, a lot of info.

    • Yeah, Jordan knows his shit when it comes to Thailand and especially Samui.

    • Buffalo boy says:

      Thai people will always know where you live, they gossip alot, all they do is sit around all day and watch the farangs and talk about them. Koh Samui is a small island, everyone will recognise you. One time I went to pattaya to the bars, and my ex thai girlfriend was in Bangkok, me ex didnt even know I was in thailand, I live in USA, and had not been to thailand in a year, her friends recognised me from a year before and called her and told her they saw me in Pattaya. Bar girls will always know everything you do, they all talk to each other, so do the taxi drivers and food vendors and hotel staff.

  • Paul says:

    I would like to retire in Koh Samui and have read a lot of articles here and other web sites. Is it best to go short time and never let the girls know were you live? I have read of being with bar girls and your apartment being broke into.
    Also, you stated the best looking thai girls are in Bangkok, are they comparable in Koh Samui?

    • Hands down, the best looking girls are in Bangkok. However, there are plenty of beautiful women all around Thailand. It’s just that there are SO many in Bangkok!

      When it comes to living and retiring in Samui, I think this is a great option. It is safe, fairly cheap, and you have the beach lifestyle all around you. Since it’s a fairly small place, the girls won’t even try stealing from you because they are so easy to run into again.

      Hope this helps,

  • Offended Thai GF says:

    This is by far the sexist article I’ve found against Thai women. Maybe you should change the title to “Should You Have a Thai Whore Girlfriend in Thailand”.

    There is a lot of genuine Thai-farang relationships out there. Not all Thai women are bar girls/whores. There are times when people of different races/religions fall in love.

    If you come here to pay for sex or be with bar girls, suck it up. That’s the consequences of being with them. No decent women ever want to sell sex or want to squeeze money out of you.

    Don’t try to generalise things that you don’t know.

    • me says:

      Guys I think you have been hanging around bars for far too much. I met a Thai girl in 2006 in a University and guess what we are still together. So, if you want to have a decent Thai girlfriend maybe you should stop hanging around the whorehouse. Well, I guess the blog was written by a stereotypical falang who is just looking for sex, backed-up by stories from his friends in the same crowd. “same feather flock together”

  • vivek says:

    I want only friends

  • Jordan says:

    There should be a whole survival guide on avoiding girlfriends when you don’t want one.

    If you’re hanging out with a bar girl at her place of business, buying her drinks, and then take her home. Cool.

    If you go see her again the next day, she’ll start to act like you’re girlfriend.

    If you sleep with the same girl more than twice it seems, you get dragged into the act like a girlfriend routine SUPER FAST. More than 5x and you’re essentially married.

    Trying to be upfront is difficult too as the girl has no interest in your polygamous desires :).

    The reality is, if you’re spending time with a girl and eating meals with her, sleeping with her, etc. She’s going to be your girlfriend whether you like it or not. And clean break ups do not happen.

    I made the bad mistake of being with the same girl for like 3 weeks and then thinking naively that I could just, “stop taking her from her bar” and go with other girls. This led to her showing up at my apartment every night after she got off work looking for me. Harassing any other girls I was with. Throwing stuff at me. It was a real mess that could have been avoided.

    I think Seven can probably help with guidelines and where to draw these lines.

    Barney’s Gremlin rules probably work (how i met your mother)
    1. Never get them wet — in other words, don’t let them take a shower at your place.
    2. Keep them away from sunlight — i.e., don’t ever see them during the day
    3. Never feed them after midnight — meaning, she doesn’t sleep over, and you don’t have breakfast with her. Ever — And brunch is not cool.

    Starting points lol…

    That being said. Some girls were different. There were girls who were really just professional whores not masquerading as good girls who make you pay for sex. $X for Yaction and they were usually pretty talented.

    It’s really the feeding them that seems most dangerous. They are very much like cats only easier to have sex with.

    • LoL, I loved this comment. You are right on with it.

      I’ll brainstorm a survival guide for this. Each person has their own style.

      First thing everyone should know is, lock your phone. Thai girls will go through your phone the moment you leave the room.

  • Mee says:

    Do not be selfish !
    so many beautiful Thai girls are waiting for farangs
    There are much more cute, sexy and horny Thai-woman than farang
    We want to help everybody, make all happy with our love.
    Don’t be jealous when we help your sisters and friend.
    They also like it when we make them lucky.
    We work hard for you and do our best. We love you all !

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